5 Ways To Get Anyone To Like You

What will this do for you and your life? How can creating influence in someone else’s life work for your benefit and theirs? When anyone likes another person it’s typically because they’re drawn to that person. There’s a likeability factor that draws them in and it’s probably very hard to uncover much that you dislike. Getting anyone to like you can mean career advancement, relationship discovery, personal development and will most definitively mean the increase of your network and net worth.

Too many of us are walking around with upside down smiles on our faces and that unfortunately translates to our body language, tonality and the words that pour out of us. Smiling more not only relaxes our face, but it positively affects our attitude.

This Forbes article says it best, “Smiling stimulates our brain’s reward mechanisms in a way that even chocolate, a well-regarded pleasure-inducer, cannot match. In a study conducted in the UK (using an electromagnetic brain scan machine and heart-rate monitor to create “mood-boosting values” for various  stimuli), British researchers found that one smile can provide the same level of brain stimulation as up to 2,000 chocolate bars; they also found that smiling can be as stimulating as receiving up to 16,000 Pounds Sterling in cash.”

Furthermore, when we genuinely smile it can make someone else’s day. Think of the many people you come across on a daily basis that would just love that gesture of kindness. A smile is the simplest and often under valued asset of a person.

Smiling genuinely says I’m approachable. It communicates to any room of people that you give off an attractive aura and you’re open to engaging with others.

You have one tongue and two ears for a reason. People who listen intently and attentively are always liked. Why? Because people love to speak about themselves!

They could probably go one for an extended period of time reminiscing about their experiences, their truths, their joys, their mistakes…in other words; their, their, their!

And all that time they probably wouldn’t even have recognized that you haven’t said much about your experiences, truths, joys and mistakes.

Few ways you can listen intently is by using the person’s name (and learning to pronounce it correctly) as you’re speaking to them and looking them in the eyes.

The perspicacious Ben Franklin said this succinctly, “A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.” Arguing never draws people in. In fact, fighting most certainly will push the person further and further away.

Harvard Business Review suggests this as food for thought, “You and someone have an opposing view and you argue. You pretend to listen to what she’s saying but what you’re really doing is thinking about the weakness in her argument so you can disprove it. Or perhaps, if she’s debunked a previous point, you’re thinking of new counter-arguments. Or, maybe, you’ve made it personal: it’s not just her argument that’s the problem. It’s her. And everyone who agrees with her.”

Arguments lead to tension, invalidation and in some instances totally vociferous confrontations. The outcome being the dilapidation of all relationships involved. Avoid that aftereffect at all costs!

Admitting to being wrong isn’t a function of age, it’s a function of maturity! It takes a person who truly embodies a moral compass to say they’ve made a mistake. What will most likely be the outcome? It’s a no-brainer, you’ll more than likely be forgiven.

If you shirk your responsibility to admitting a blunder, expect to be ghosted and avoided like the plague.

Acknowledging you’re wrong isn’t admitting defeat, in fact, it takes a big person whose character is of utmost importance. They’re not afraid to say, “I’m sorry, I messed up”. Hardest and most profound thing to say!

Simply put, compliment. Giving a compliment doesn’t mean it’s an opportunity to be nice and not nice in the same breath. You can’t be both and believe me, the not nice feeling that you’ve left them with is what they’ll give to you in reciprocation.

Gretchen Rubin, author of the book “The Happiness Project,” says this, “Whatever you say about other people influences how people see you.”

For example, if someone is deeply involved in a non-profit and is making a significant impact without financial compensation. You don’t say, “Congratulations, that’s impressive, but have you looked into getting a real job?” Someone actually said this and the person on the receiving end who had contributed so much good felt dejected.

I don’t believe anyone wants to be known as condescending in any regard. Whether they’re trying to be or not, having that label isn’t the most uplifting feeling.

Don’t ever tell yourself the lie that they don’t realize you’ve just complimented them only to retaliate in a nice way. It’s not nice and they know it! Because we know that they know, should let you know that it’s obviously in everyone’s best interest to just be nice…

So next time you’re nice, just be nice period.