
Isn’t it funny how you are loved only when you’re stagnant? People will adore you when you engage in nonsensical energy wasting interactions, but the moment you step out of your comfort zone to pursue a mighty vision, is the moment you know who stands in your corner.
And many times it’s a number you can count on one hand. To this I say, do not be discouraged. Do not lose faith. There are people in your corner. You just may not recognize them as yet or they will be your future friends.
How to Spot Naysayers
- They will intentionally not ask about your bold pursuits, but are interested in trivial pursuits
- They avoid you like the plague
- They are quietly and/or openly skeptical about your ambitions
- Your ambitions agitates their demons (it’s a gut feeling that’s how you know about the aforementioned agitation)
- They are often energy drainers
A friend of mine said an iconic piece of wisdom that I carry with me everyday and I hope you choose to as well.
“You have no business taking on someone else’s opinion”
Their opinion is theirs. They have a right to it and you have the right to completely ignore it. If someone doesn’t believe in you, why do you rely on their opinion or on them?
Your success does not hang in the balance if they do not support you. Pay them no mind and focus on the tireless pursuit of your dreams. The impact you are about to make will create a Tsunami of a wave and it’ll be so worth it!
People who have purpose, tend to not engage in petty gossip and energy draining interactions. Your life will have infinite meaning when you wake up energized, ready to tackle the day. But if you drag yourself out of bed, but you can’t drag your mind out of the past, you’re in deep trouble.
Naysayers are often the people who believe the past happened to them. But in reality, the past just happened. Period. Point blank. Refute these self defeating thoughts from permeating your life.
I wrote a book recently. It’s called, Mom Take Center Stage. One of the topics I cover is the art of quieting the naysayers. Essentially, when these people reveal themselves to you, the truth is, you can’t quiet them physically. Though you can quiet them in the way that really counts. And that’s in the depths of your mind. Your mind should not become the vault of their bias.

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Allow them their opinions as is their right and know now that you must truly find your way away from them. That is the only place to go. Away. Physically distance may not always be a choice, however mental distance should always be the applied decision.
What You Don’t Need From Naysayers
- Their opinions
If they don’t value you, why should you strive for their opinions?
- Their Applause
They won’t cheer for you anyways so why crave forbidden fruit? Even if the cheers come, it may likely be a wolf in sheep’s clothing and that should give you pause.
- Their Presence
If someone is a double edged sword in your life, regardless of who they are, have a special place for them. And that place is not at your table. Love them from afar. Be courteous. Most important, protect your peace.
- Their Association
Naysayers don’t adopt that title by accident and it seldom is a one off situation. Just as a leopard’s spots remain unchanged, so do they. Do not pine for the association of people whose whispers have become a cacophony of negative replay in your mind and heart.
You deserve to be amongst the people who possess hearts of gold. Those are the people who will stand in your corner and lift you higher as you fight for impact and the creation of an undeniable legacy.
Focus on:
- The things that bring you joy; your kids, your family and friends, your pursuits.
- Adopting a growth mindset: look for ways to get better in your life.
- Engaging in a monthly mental detox: pour your thoughts (the good, the bad, the ugly) into a journal.
- Being productive, not just busy. Productive people do not have idle minds and their minds are never in the devil’s workshop.
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Naysayers will always exist. While they’re busy with thoughts of you; what you’re doing, how you’re doing it and all the ways you are wrong, you do what you do best. Keep building. Create lasting impact. Focus on the you, you are becoming.
They become quiet when you become loud. Loud in your belief. Loud in your worth. Loud in your strides to attain the legacy you envision.
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