What Lights You Up? (And Why You Should Follow That Spark)

There’s a question that quietly follows most moms around.

It creeps in when the dishes are done, when the kids are asleep, when you finally sit down for a moment of quiet — and it whispers:

“Is this it?”

For years, I thought that question made me ungrateful. After all, I had love, health, and a roof over my head. But deep down, there was a part of me that longed for something more — not more to do, but more to feel. More joy. More passion. More light.

Eventually, I found a better question:

“What lights you up?”

And when I started answering that question honestly — and following the spark — everything changed.

This blog is an invitation to do the same. To explore what ignites your spirit, why that spark matters more than you think, and how to build a life that feels lit from the inside out.

Why So Many Women Feel Dimmed

Modern motherhood often feels like a never-ending to-do list.

We get good at doing what needs to be done. But in the process, we often lose touch with what brings us joy — and over time, we begin to forget what used to light us up.

Here’s a relatable truth: You used to love writing, but now you only write grocery lists. You used to dance, but now the soundtrack is toddler tantrums. You used to dream, but now you mostly plan meals.

It’s not that the responsibilities aren’t important. It’s that you are, too.

When you constantly put your joy on the back burner, your inner light dims. You begin to function, not flourish.

That’s not sustainable — and it’s certainly not what you were made for.

What Does “Lighting You Up” Actually Mean?

When something “lights you up,” it connects you to your true self. It stirs energy, curiosity, and enthusiasm — even if you’re tired. It might not always feel convenient or practical, but it feels alive.

That spark might show up as:

A creative idea you can’t stop thinking about
A hobby you secretly miss
A conversation that left you buzzing
A cause that stirs your heart
A dream you haven’t dared to admit out loud

Your spark is your soul’s way of pointing to purpose. It’s not random. It’s a compass.

5 Reasons You Should Follow That Spark

1. Your Spark Reveals Clues to Your Purpose

That thing that lights you up? It’s not frivolous — it’s a breadcrumb. A thread worth tugging on. Finding your passion leads to clarity, and clarity leads to purpose.

When you follow what excites you, even in small ways, you begin to build a life that feels intentional and aligned.

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2. Joy Is Contagious

You know how kids light up when they’re doing something they love? Adults do that too. And when you’re lit up, it spills over.

Your family doesn’t need a perfect mom. They need a mom who’s fully present.

Showing your kids what passion looks like in real life gives them permission to do the same. You become a living example of what it means to pursue joy, not just perform duty.

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3. Following Your Spark Builds Confidence

Every time you say yes to something that excites you, you rebuild trust with yourself. You remember that your desires matter. That you can do new things. That you’re not too late or too old or too busy to come alive again.

Confidence doesn’t come from accomplishment — it comes from alignment.

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4. It Protects You from Burnout

Burnout doesn’t only come from doing too much — it comes from doing too much of what drains you and not enough of what fills you up.

The spark is a protective force. It replenishes your energy, creativity, and sense of self — all essential to avoiding burnout and overwhelm.

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5. It Makes Life Worth Living

We weren’t made to simply survive our own lives. We were meant to enjoy them — not in every moment, but in a meaningful way.

Your spark gives life its color. Its curiosity. Its flavor.

It reminds you that you’re more than a title, a role, or a checklist. You’re a human being — and joy is your birthright.

How to Find (or Reignite) Your Spark

You might be reading this thinking, “I don’t even know what lights me up anymore.” That’s okay. Reconnection is a process. Here’s where to start:

1. Follow the Warmth

Notice what feels good in your body — not just in your brain.

What makes you lose track of time? What leaves you smiling for no reason? What makes you say, “I needed that”?

Follow that. Even if it doesn’t seem productive. It matters.

2. Keep a “Spark List”

Start a running list of things that light you up — big or small.

Things that make you laugh
Topics that make you curious
Tasks that energize you instead of depleting you
Places or people that intrigue you

Revisit it when you feel disconnected. Add to it as you grow.

3. Make Space for Exploration

Sparks die out when there’s no room for them. You don’t need hours — you need intention.

Start with 15 minutes a week. Protect it. Play with it. See where it leads. The point isn’t perfection — it’s reconnection.

4. Give Yourself Permission

You don’t need to monetize your passion. You don’t need to master it. You don’t need to justify it.

If it brings you joy, it’s reason enough.

Following your spark isn’t selfish — it’s sacred.

How One Spark Led to My Book

There was a time I thought my voice wouldn’t be heard. I had ideas and stories, but I buried them beneath the demands of daily life. Until one day, I gave myself permission to write — not for approval. I knew if I positively impacted one person, it would be worth the investment. And most importantly just because it lit me up .

That one decision — to follow the spark — eventually became a manuscript. And that manuscript became my book:

Mom Take Center Stage

This book wasn’t born out of strategy. It was born out of a spark — and the choice to honor it.

And that choice changed everything.

👑 Ready to Follow Your Spark All the Way?

If you’re done settling for autopilot and ready to reclaim your voice, your energy, and your sense of joy — I wrote this for you.

Mom Take Center Stage is your permission slip to live boldly, lead with heart, and come home to yourself. It’s not about doing more — it’s about becoming more you.

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